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Why People Self Sabotage Posted on March 24, 2008

A mental snapshot.

An image that determines how high or low we’re going to go.

“Mike, tell me more.”

Ok, amigo.

Let’s keep going.

Before we move forward, let me say this.

***You were BORN TO WIN.

You must let this idea sink in. Deep inside.

Yes, too many people today have bought into a distortion of their
potential and possibilities.

They let the image of failure, unworthiness, and undeserving
sink into their spirit.

You MUST buy into the idea that you were BORN TO WIN.

Because you were.

You must BELIEVE it. You MUST FEEL IT.

For too many, their self image, the picture they hold of
themselves mentally has been distorted.

It has been distorted by their environment, friends, and family.

Messages of “You’re no good,” and “Who are you to succeed,” have
taken their toll.

We must RESCRIPT our self image.

It’s been said for years, by many people, that you can’t succeed
past the image you hold in your mind.

This is why people self sabotage themselves. Their inner image
doesn’t support their next level of success.

You must see yourself being crowned a CHAMPION.

You must see yourself happy, smiling, wealthy, and healthy.

You must see yourself with tons of great friends.

You must see yourself making a lasting contribution and
impacting many.

The day you realize on the INSIDE that you were born to win,
everything changes.

Start expecting success. Start expecting accomplishments.

When things are going well, expect them to go even better.

Yes, your best days are ahead of you. Yes, you were born to win.

In all areas of your life. Yes, all areas.

See that now.

Love Ya! You’re The Best!

Your Coach,

Michael

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Marlene Darroch

I am starting the rescripting NOW.

Marlene Darroch

I am so glad to have opened this email. I'm well aware that I self-sabotage but this puts the reality of it in my face...that I need to quickly reevaluate these habits and list the changes I need to make to keep on track. Just acknowledging self-sabotage is far different from owning each part of it and being ready to make the necessary changes. I have fallen away from self-affirmations. There so many valuable tid-bits above.
Thanks, Marlene

Pat Graeff

Yes, this is true of me. I have been self sabotaging for quite some time now. It becomes easier to recognize and then to conquer when you brought it up. The steps begin when one first recognizes it. I can identify it now and throw it out with the bath water each and every morning. That is my exercize for it. I will let you know of my progress as I go. Love you, PatG

Titus

Hi Coach, this is powerful. after reading this, my life will never be the same again. Thank you very much. Keep it up. You're changing many lives. You're like a candle that lights many candles without losing its own light.

Your student

Titus

Rufus III

This is what I need to feed the inner me oppose to the enemy! I'am GREAT!! People tells my wife and I that all the time...But, we begin to shoot ourselves down instantly. WOW, "It's sad that others see things in us which we can not!"
After hearing this blog, I must say: I'am a champion. I have a GREAT wife and a WONDERFUL marriage. My kids are BLESSED. I have a GREAT business with OVERFLOW capital. I'am a DISTRIBUTION center for GOD. Others are BLESSED because of my GIVING etc.!

Thanks Coach with AUTHORITY/ RCJ3

Bruce

Great article!! You have good insights and the power to observe simplicity and convey it simply to us folks.

I need to mention though that part of winning is to know what game one is playing. That's part of the problem which is not knowing what the game one is in much less trying to win!

I think it's important to know and understand the game one is in and then, have a plan and then, play it to win. That's how one can also be a winner!!

Simple and worth examining as to why one is not a winner.

That's my two-sense! Hope it helps.

Best,

Bruce

John Clark

Mike,

A lot of this has to do with our habitual thinking and actions. When we first come in contact with success information we expect results right away but we haven't had time to have the new thinking habits and actions to take effect yet.

But we must stay the course if we are to reap the rewards of the success we seek.

Thanks for a great message.

Here's to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark
http://www.lifetosuccess.com
http://www.habitbustingsystem.com

Vicki Butler-Hagen

Hey coach!!
This is easier said than done. How to change the CORE belief is hard because we can fluff it up on the outside, but it seems impossible sometimes to get the Core to believe...sometimes I think it would be great to be hypnotized ????
Scary to turn our Core over to someone else though too :-)

Carolyn

We must RESCRIPT our self image.... great one! :-)...
we need to keep an eye on the script we are constantly writing for ourselves ..and continue to write ourselves great scripts .. where do we want to go ..how do we want to feel, how do we want to live our lives ..& TRUST that it will be so ....
we ALL ARE BORN WINNERS ... and WE CAN DO IT!
thanks Mike for your wonderful REMINDERS!
We all know this stuff .. we have just forgotten! :-)
WIshing you all a magical day!
hugs Carolyn
www.wisdomseekers.org.nz

Antonio

Hi Mike,

This is an eye opener for me and a reminder as well. Thanks heaps!

Tony

Don Cox

Great work Mike! I love you man. I've been a student/protege for several years now. My 'Greatness is no Longer Held Hostage!' It's not right yet, but I've got it going ... thanks to you. This is such a fabulous group of 'proteges' to be associated with too. The empathy and encouragment is 'out of this world'!! It seems that you're reading "ALL" of our minds. Although we've never met, and I have some great mentors in my life, you have become the one 'coach' who seems to always 'fire' me up. I'm about to become 51 years of age, and when I read your stuff, or hear your voice, I'm ready to go conquer the world babeee. Thanks for everything Mike, and know that you're loved. God Bless, Don

Brian and Nicole Nielsen

Thanks Mike for the emphasis on this crucial point. My wife and I nearly hate to go to sleep because we enjoy our days so much now. It was not always this way but God has blessed us with so much and continues to do so. We love finding people who have so much potential but just need someone like us to believe in them. Then we work side by side with them and then help them believe in themselves. This realization is often much more exciting than the income they receive.

John Dupon

It has been said; For things to change we have to change.
Thanks so much Mike. Best Regards; John.

Kim

Thanks Mike fro the reminder :)

Olufemi

I believe this is very true - as it happened in my life. The 'new' me has been the result of that realisation.
Thank you Mike!
Olufemi
Lagos, Nigeria

Walter

Dear Michael -

Although in your e-mail you said to run over here to read what you said - I walked! and slowly as well

I was born to live - yes - and in my life things are unique to me as to how and why and where and in what manner I want to do this living!

I, more than anything, enjoy the fact that for every moment in life that I consciously look at, there are an infinite number of perspectives to see what is in front of me and that once I see these perspectives, I can choose the one that best fits what I want to for my own life!

I hope you do the same as well for yourself!

thank you!

Walter

Jamie Reeves

thanks for that

Dr. Majdi

Dear Mike:

That sounds great. One comment though: May be you need less than a tone of friends few good friends I think is all you need to have to get to the top. True friends are always supportive, sometimes difficult to find but not very difficult.

regards,
majdi

monira

Dear mike
yes you are absolutly alright,, thanks for such encouraging informations

Joseph Jeffer

Mike allow me to add more to your word ‘***You were BORN TO WIN’. Among millions of sperms YOU are the only one who managed to win to reach to the target, therefore for this reason you were born. If you were winner in your mother womb, then definitely you are winner in your mother earth womb against millions of other, you are always a winner, keep your spirit high and continue your winning journey. In short “You were BORN TO WIN, for this reason you were born to continue your winning journey”. Go on, go on do not stop on your winning journey. You were a WINNER, You are a WINNER and you will always be a WINNER!

Joseph

http://cooking.ursmartgoal.com

James Howard

Dear Mike

Many thanks - You pushed the right button for me today with your "self sabotage" blog. Keep them coming

Sincerely

James Howard

Ricardo J. Gomez

Thanks Mike

www.bign.com/jrgomez

Thaddeus Dean

Robert Garcia and I must have had the same ex-wife.
Mike gives excellent reminders that where we are is
not where we have to stay. So I decided to follow
Mike advise and NOT wait for my ship to come in,SWIM
out to meet it. Thanks Mike, and keep up the good work....

Robert Garcia

I know exactly what you are talking about Mike. I've done it for years since I was always put down by my ex-wife about everything I did. No matter what I did it wasn't good enough for her. What I've done is just read alot of books and listened to CD's, DVD's, joined mailing lists like yours and built myself back up to the person I was before...Confident, Successful, Motivated...etc. Some people just enjoy putting other people down because they are not happy so what we have to do sometimes is just get those people out of our lives because otherwise we'll never fullfill out true potential and dreams for our lives.

Have a great day Mike!

Robert Garcia
http://www.wealthbychocolate.com

Bill Baumgartner

Mike,

I am with you:

"We must RESCRIPT our self image.

It’s been said for years, by many people, that you can’t succeed
past the image you hold in your mind."

So true,
and with that in mind,

I just finished creating my Vision Board!
The images that I have attached to the board will be what I see myself becoming.

Thanks for all your words of knowledge & encouragement.

Bill
www.gathergreatness.wordpress.com

Jeanne May

You are so right Michael... each one of us is born to win! And many of us get all kinds of sabotage techniques to prevent it from happening -- Go figure!! It doesn't matter what we do... we are good at it -- even if we don't think we are!

Thanks a million
jeanne
http://www.goalsnaspirations.com

Kathy

Yes, we get whatever we expect to get, so why not expect something great! I am a true believer in the glass being half full way of thinking, it just makes life so much more pleasant!

Kathy
www.MoreTimeandMoney.biz

Jerry Hanson

thank you

Mr. B

I Agree With You Totally..Michael Ware. I Myself Can Be Own Self Sabotager In So Many Ways...We Must Change That Immediately!!!

L.A.

Hello,

I deal with self-sabatoge all the time, I use to believe the suceess and wealth for someone else and not me :-(

Thanks because yes, I AM BORN TO WIN,

THANKS, THANKS, THANKS

L.A.

vas

Vicious and life-sucking it has been for me when I think of what it has done to me or should I say, "I've allowed it".
Trust me, I have done re scripting many times in the last few years and get sucked-in frequently.

Mike, you appear again and again to bail me out of it....like you have done now. I am fired-up and AM pressing-on Sir......to live the life I have designed for me to have NOW!!!!

I just designed a World Class life transforming programme called, "XXXXXXXX" and I will let you know when it is ready to be rolled out.

This is exciting and I'm looking for the wealthy who can afford the 21 day experience. This is not for the working class. It is for those who have their destinies in their own hands and for those who want to have it that way.

Rocking n Rolling Sir! HOOOOOOAAH!!!

Liz

Hi Mike,
I have lost every job opportunity, plus every job I ever had because of Self-Sabatoge. What you said is very, very true. Now I need to learn how to replace my negative thinking with positive thinking.

Ray

Thanks Mike!

I am born to win. Every day, in every way, I'm becoming better and better.

Feelin' strong now..

thanks again

Kelley

You can believe this and really believe it in your heart but until the unconscious grasps it fully, the self sabatoge takes hold. This has been tough for me! Improvements have been slow but noticed.

Jim Zaccaria

ABSOLUTELY...Right-On Mr MIKE! ... THAT'S what Yesterday's Celebration [Easter]was All about! How WE Too Can Overcome This World! The message is almost too simple...We were created in the image and Likeness of God, given Dominion over ALL things...even Death. We are to be 'Transformed by the renewing of our Minds' ... Think about it...Speak it...SAY to YOUR Mountains Be-Gone! and cast them into the sea! He Said We could do it, so it Must Be TRUE!
Namaste

Dion Morrison

I know this all too well. It is only after 39 years or so, that I have been able to settle down and create my VISION. Needless to say, after taking so long to get started, I feel some pressure. You can call it 'mid-life' _______. You know the old cliche'. My watch word is FAITH in the Law of Attraction or Success. I now keep pushing forward knowing that I don't have to do all of the work! The Universal Laws that govern success will be working on my behalf. So, now I am confident. But, I understand that I have to RE-AFFIRM this belief each and everyday. Thank you for your email! It helps to reinforce these ideas.

Linda R

Great topic! I think most of us need to "rescript". I'm working on it every day! A quick response to Michael Ware's comment. Michael, try saying something like "in the past I was a master of self sabotage" because you don't want to keep stating something that you don't want to be true anymore! (And the "desperate feelings" that go with it, change the feelings to Loving yourself..the difference will be amazing! Even just becoming aware of all the negative self talk is a step in the right direction.) :) Thanks for all of your support and great advice Mike!

christiaan

Did anybody know that eckhart tolle a spiritual leader on this planet is on the oprah winfrey show for 10-weeks explaining the way to freedom,freedom from self-sabotge,freedom from all pain and suffering. go to www.oprah.com watch all the past epidodes for free. peace 2 all

Joan

Yes, very good Mike - I guess most people at some time in their lives can relate to this!

Rick Rainer

I WAS BORN TO WIN. We must each "own" that self image of ourselves.

THEN we must believe that of others -- Believe in them until they gain the belief in themselves.

We were ALL Born To Win!

Eileen Walker (Jam.)

Thanks Mike. This confirms the fact that one will never go higher than their THOUGHTS will take them.
We are today where our thoughts brought us and will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us.
Great work Mike.

Emmanuel

I really aprecaite your comments ,man
Itis a pleasure for me to read them .
keep it real man !

vmDavis

I always am amazed by people & how they sabotage themselves.
I, have been, extremely lucky in life, but also, have sabotaged myself when my company went under.
I thought that I wanted to hurt myself more than anyone could. I did.....but then you wake up & ride on that horse, again.
I cannot believe the actors/actresses, etc. that you would think - have it all.... but yet they don't know the secret.... of life....
(They are their worst enemy)....

Robert Schrage

The power of positive thinking. It's at the root of everything. The opposite is of course true as well. The hard part is the discipline. Two parts to that too, One part is positive affirmation and the other seems to be knowing when that little voice is up there making trouble. The only thing that gets in the way is me.

SaiF

Hey Mike!

YOU WERE BORN TO WIN!

That's the exact way the 14 Year Old Millionaire, Farrah Gray thinks!!!

I'm starting to adopt this mindset as well, thank you for the reminder Mike!

If you don't know about the 14 Year Old Millionaire and his success habits, you might want to find out exactly how he made his first million so fast so young.

To CANI,

SaiF
The World's First Teen
Personal Development Video Blogger

Dr. Ben

Excellent, Mike.

Love the phrase "Rescripting our self-image." A key area for many if not all on the road to success...

Michael Ware

I am a master of self sabotage, and need desperately to get past it.